[Rowman & Littlefield]
Kategoria: Książki / Literatura obcojęzyczna
People with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality
Disorders have a serious mental illness that primarily affects
their intimate, personal, and family relationships. Often they
appear to be n...
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People with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorders have a
serious mental illness that primarily affects their intimate,
personal, and family relationships. Often they appear to be
normally functioning at work and in public interactions, and
Narcissists may even be highly effective, in the short term, in
some work or social situations. However, in intimate relationships,
they can be emotional, aggressive, demeaning, illogical, paranoid,
accusing, and controlling-in the extreme. Their ability to function
normally or pleasantly can suddenly change in an instant, like
flipping a switch. These negative behaviors don't happen once in a
while, they happen almost continuously in their intimate
relationships and most often, and especially with their Caretaker
family member. Here, Margalis Fjelstad describes how people get
into a Caretaker role with a Borderline or Narcissist, and how they
can get out. Caretakers give up their sense of self to become who
and what the Borderline or Narcissist needs them to be. This
compromises the Caretaker's self-esteem, distorts their thinking
processes, and locks them into a Victim-Persecutor-Rescuer pattern
with the Borderline or Narcissist.The book looks at the underlying
rules and expectations in these relationships and shows Caretaker's
how to move themselves out of these rigid interactions and into a
healthier, more productive, and positive lifestyle-with or without
the Borderline/Narcissistic partner or family member. It describes
how to get out of destructive interactions with the Borderline or
Narcissist and how to take new, more effective actions to focus on
personal wants, needs, and life goals while allowing the Borderline
or Narcissist to take care of themselves. It presents a realistic,
yet compassionate, attitude toward the self-destructive nature of
these relationships, and gives real life examples of how
individuals have let go of their Caretaker behaviors with creative
and effective solutions.
